Spiralling around again

Growing up, I recall my parents hosting a “wine and cheese” party in the first house I grew up in. I think it might have been as my father was getting into local politics, but I was probably around 10 so I’ll go with what my perception of it was.

I do not recall being around for the soirée itself, but I was around for the preparations and I was imprinted with the “hostess” energies from that moment onwards.

When we moved to the house I spent my teen years in, it took me a few years, but once I was in high school, I started hosting my own parties…theme parties at that!

-Toga party- because I loved playing with fabric and wanted an excuse to create a draped gown;

-50’s party so that I could make up a beautiful dress pattern I had found, and I got to make my BFF a poosdle skirt

-60’s in Paris party – I had found another cool pattern and made this amazing black Audrey Hepburn type two piece top and skirt, and a faux stained glass wall piece depicting the Eiffel Tower.

And my high school  friends were so awesome, they came in costume and we had a blast- at least that’s what I recall.

My grandmother also contributed to that imprinting as we usually went to see my grandfather and her every Sunday; there were classic items always on the menu- butterscotch pie, cream puffs, meat pie, baked beans, and various squares and cookies.

It was comforting, it was tradition, it was good.

In the intervening years, depending on where I was living and what my life was like at the time, I have continued to enjoy hosting and offering a safe and funny place for people to sit, chat, meet new folks, and reconnect with old friends, etc.

And about 4 years ago, my anxiety started to get worse, and I had to start looking at ways to reduce my stress. While hosting events and parties was still fun, it was part of a larger picture of “too much”, and I started to cut back.

Retiring from organizing official events was the first step, and when we had to move into the ” interim apartment”, we hosted one party there and then shifted away from it.

This past weekend, we celebrated with friends in our new apartment-one in which my husband has been exercising a joyful amount of decorating savvy, and I get my own studio/room!

So, we cleaned, hung photos and art pieces, prepped food and one friend commented in advance, “don’t go nuts!”….

too late…

And it was nice. I still need to make sure I do not resume the ” Too much” inclinations of my youth, I am happy to have spiralled back to a place of healthy hosting.

 

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3 thoughts on “Spiralling around again

  1. It was a great party, for the short time I was there. Sorry, I had done my usual, over-booked myself. I hope you were able to just sit and enjoy your own party at some point. The new place is certainly much better for hosting. You now have a lovely big sunny kitchen to spread your culinary wings in 🙂

  2. Hahaha…wine and cheese…now there’s a blast from the past! My parents hosted quite a number of them, and I got volun-told to be the clean up crew. Later, the big trend was fondue parties…aah, the 70’s. Thanks for a lovely time; yummers on the nibbles, and love the new apartment.

  3. In 20 years, the kids will be looking back at all of the “craft beer tastings” -at least in the 70’s there was an expectation of some food to offset the booze consumption 🙂

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